School teaches us to measure our worth by the grades we receive, they are assigned by our teachers through the pressures of examination and coursework. We’re worth more as students if we’re top of the class, with top grades.
After school, our lives move along, bosses and even clients try to determine our worth by how much we sell or improve the bottom line. Our worth is also measured by how much we get paid, which is once again dictated by external sources.
This is really an outdated system, I’d rather find out my worth internally, and the only way I know how to do that is by living my life based on what I value the most. These internal values are different for everyone, and they can change as our lives evolve and grow.
If we measure our worth internally, external forces can’t affect it. It can be entirely separate from how much we make or how much our work earns us. For me, income falls pretty far down the list of what I value, so money doesn’t determine my worth. If it did, I’d work more so I could earn more money and therefore, feel more worthy. Instead, I value freedom and independence, I want to be in charge of my own life, to do that I work on projects that I believe in and feel passionate about. If you do that right then income will follow.
If I focus on doing work that aligns with what I value, I feel like my work (and life) has meaning, which in turns gives me a purpose in life. If I create a blog post and only three people read it, but they get immense value from it and it helps them, then I feel that work was worthwhile.
A large part of choosing your path in life is figuring out which values will determine your worth. Once that’s clear it’s much easier to decide if the work your doing will increase your true worth.
Get creative with your values to help remind yourself of your self-worth. I have my values hanging up in my office. When I feel not worthy enough or I need to help to determine a direction to go in, a quick glance at my values helps me immensely.
Hanging on my office wall and reminds me of my values daily